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If you are over 18 and were hurt or abused as a child

As a child it can sometimes be difficult to understand when traumatic things happen to us. If you were abused or hurt as a child or young person you might not have realised it at the time but the effects of the event or events may stay with you as you become an adult.

When a young person is under the age of 18 your local authority can act to support and protect you by initiating their child protection procedures. When you’re over 18 these don’t apply.

Citizens Advice advise that there are several options available to you which depend on:

  • how long ago the abuse took place
  • how old you are now
  • whether there are time limits for taking a particular course of legal action.

Is the abuse still happening? +

If the abuse is still happening who you contact will depend on the type of abuse you’re experiencing. Both Swansea and Neath Port Talbot have specialist domestic abuse services, as well as sexual violence advocates. You may wish to contact these organisations to find out what your options are. They can also support you to speak to the police if you choose.

Has the abuse stopped? +

If the abuse has stopped you might want to consider;

  • contacting a specialist organisations for support and counselling
  • reporting the abuse to the police. You will be put through to a specialist chid protection team who deal with child abuse offences committed in the past. Call: 101
  • consider taking court action against the abuser
  • claim compensation
  • consider medical tests for STDs
  • try to identify whether someone else is now being abused by the same abuser, with a view to protecting the other victim/s
  • try to get access to local authority records which may help you to find out what, if anything, happened to the person who abused you.

Support if the abuse is still happening

Live Fear Free Helpline

Helpline providing help and advice about violence against women, domestic abuse and sexual violence, including honour based violence and forced marriage, slavery and female genital mutilation.

Freephone: 0808 80 10 800

Call * text * live chat * email

Live Fear Free

Swansea Domestic Abuse Hub

The Swansea Domestic Abuse Hub brings together Swansea Council and it’s partners of health, police and the third sector to help children and families experiencing domestic abuse or escalating relationship problems.

Tel: 01792 562888

For more information: Domestic Abuse Hub Information Leaflet

Swansea Domestic Abuse Hub

Neath Port Talbot – Domestic Abuse EIP Service

Thrive Women’s Aid’s Children and Young People Team offers a range of age appropriate interventions. aged 4 – 25 years who have been affected by domestic abuse.

Tel: 01639 894864

Visit Thrive Women’s Aid

LGBT+ Domestic Abuse Helpline

Emotional and practical support for LGBT+ people experiencing domestic abuse.

Freephone: 0800 999 5428

Email: help@galop.org.uk

Monday, Tuesday and Friday 10am – 5pm

Wednesday and Thursday 10am – 8pm

Tuesday 1pm – 5pm is a trans specific service.

Visit Galop

Men’s Advice Line

The helpline for male victims of domestic abuse.

Freephone: 0808 801 0327

Monday – Friday 9am – 8pm

Email: info@mensadviceline.org.uk

Mon-Fri 9am – 8pm, Sat and Sun 10am – 12pm and 4pm – 6pm

Visit Respect

Karma Nirvana

UK Helpline supporting victims of ‘honour’-based abuse and forced marriage

Tel: 0800 5999 247

Monday – Friday 9am – 5pm

Email: info@karmanirvana.org.uk

Visit Karma Nirvana

Victim Support National 24hr Support line

Helpline for individuals affected by crime, providing confidential support or information.

Freephone: 0808 1689 111


Live chat available 24/7

Visit Victim Support


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Support if the abuse has stopped

National Association for People Abused in Childhood (NAPAC)

NAPAC provides advice to adults who have been abused in childhood. They can refer you to local counselling, support and help groups. They also have a helpline and produce useful booklets.

Support line: 0808 801 0331 (free and will not show on a phone bill)

Monday to Thursday 10am – 9pm, Friday 10am to 6pm


Women’s Aid Survivors Forum

The Survivors’ Forum is a safe, anonymous, space for women (over 18) who have been affected by domestic abuse to share their experiences and support one another.

Women’s Aid

Women’s Aid Live Chat

Monday to Friday 10am – 4pm

Saturday and Sunday 10am – 12pm

N.B. There might a delay for this service. Check the website for current average wait time.

Visit Women’s Aid

Victim Support Live Chat

If you need support after crime, you can chat to one of Victim Support’s trained supporters.

Available 24/7

You call also call: 0808 16 89 111

Visit Victim Support

LGBT+ Domestic Abuse Survivors’ Forum

A safe, anonymous online forum for LGBT+ survivors of domestic abuse to share their experiences and give and receive support from one another.

Wednesday 5pm- 8pm

Thursday 5pm – 8pm

Visit Galop